Taking on a long distance move can be a pretty stressful and overwhelming process for anyone, so matter where you’re currently located, where you’re headed, or how many things you have to move. There’s so much to coordinate and plan for, and so many things to figure out before you can even get to your new home or new location. Now, throw kids into the mix, and it’s a whole new ballgame.
So how do you break the news to your kids of your move, and how do you prepare them for the overall process involved in it? Luckily for you, Excel has been through this a time or two, and has some great tips to make sure you and your kids are prepared for a move of any distance.
Breaking the News
As a parent, all you can really do is try to prepare your children as well as possible when you all have to move – no matter what the reason is. So how do you go about breaking the news, and how do you get them used to the idea?
The most important thing to do when telling your kids about a move is to tell them as far ahead of time as possible. Don’t avoid it, don’t try to keep it from them, and don’t try to sugarcoat it. Putting it off and trying to pass it off as no big deal will only hurt them or make them upset.
After telling your kids as far in advance as you can, ask them to sit and write down any concerns or opinions they might have regarding the move itself. Let them get out any sadness or anger they have, and make sure to let them verbalize these emotions as well.
Try to remember that to them, this can seem like the end of the world – after all, they’re moving away from their home, safe space, friends, family, school, etc. Hear them out and try to support them as best you can, while reiterating that there’s no getting around the move, and that you all have to do what you have to do.
Maybe even try to research the area with them to get them even a little bit excited for their new home and new location.
Now that your kids are apprised of your move, make sure to get them started on the moving process as early as possible so both them and you are prepared.
If they’re comfortable with letting you help them go through their things, try to organize and sort through clothing, furniture, and other items to figure out what they want to keep, or what they might want to donate, sell, or otherwise get rid of.
Now that you’re all packed and ready to go, it’s time to head to your new place. Your moving company (hopefully Excel!) has already packed up your things, and now it’s time to hit the road yourself.
To keep the kids happy, try to pack a lot of drinks and snacks, and take pit stops often to let them stretch their legs. Have plenty of phone chargers ready to go, and even prepare some music or car games they might enjoy – especially if they’re on the younger side. Also, make sure to have some movies downloaded and ready to go on Netflix to keep them occupied.
You did it! You’ve made it to your new home in one piece, and are getting the kids situated and settled into their new rooms and new spaces.
As you adjust to your new home, make sure to check in with them frequently to see how they’re doing, and how they like their new surroundings. Moving can be extremely stressful for children or teenagers – make sure they know they’re loved, supported, and heard.